ACCESS DENIED

Sorry but I'm in a pretty angry, frustrated and male-bashing mood right now. So, self-confessed male chauvinists may skip this one.


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I hate to sound feminist, and I hate to sound like a moral police, but sometimes, men, and the "male mentality", it's so so sick that it just gets onto your nerves. What's wrong with the guys of today's world? What makes them lose all sensibilities, wisdom, and mannerism they might have learnt as children so easily to the one "virtue" of perversion! It's not just the media or the NGOs that keep crying themselves hoarse claiming our cities are unsafe for women, it's the general public, you and me, men and women who are all, in general, apprehensive about the state of affairs that is.

Everyone agrees that Delhi is a nightmarish city for women to live in, but do we really realize why? We just claim that the attitude of the society is not healthy, the public is unresponsive, the Delhite male is cheap, vulgar and disrespectful, and the whole community is sick. But I just wanna ask, WHO is this community, this public, this society? Is it not you and me who form this society? If you be honest, it's not hard to realize that a lot of men today are guilty of being apprehensive about the safety of their own womenfolk-wives, mothers, girlfriends, sisters and daughters- but do not hesitate to pass a casual comment, a sexual advance, or even more, at an unknown woman-somebody else's wife, mother, girlfriend, sister or daughter, and most of all, a woman! They'd advise their daughters against remaining out after dark even if their work/education requirements demand them to, claiming that the society is full of evil men ready to hound on them like hungry wolves, but many a times join the wolf brigade themselves, with "adventurous" acts of their own.

I could write more of this, but what's the point. The women already know this well, and the men know it too, much better, provided they realize it. The point is that the basic attitude sucks, and we end up doing nothing other than creating an even unsafe and biased world for women to live in, where they must confine themselves and their abilities because this insecure male gender is not ready to give them basic human respect and have made every step a danger for them. Perhaps it's too far-fetched, but I'm sometimes forced to wonder if it's a large-scale conspiracy by men to maintain their superior hold and domination in a world where women crave for equality and opportunity, and manage to do very well given a chance!The most disgusting angle of the story is the involvement of youth in this. Indeed, we have middle aged rascals raping eight year olds in the news headlines, but the eve-teasing Roadside Romeos between 16-26 is a far more dangerous and populous species without doubt. Of course I hate animals of the kind who keep getting too close for comfort to girls traveling alone in buses, who keep getting drunk and spreading nuisance in the middle of the road, who keep passing comments and what not to any girl passing by, but I have an even bigger problem with the White Collared Wolf- the species that comes from a decent family, is educated, has friends among girls, has a loving sister and mother and sometimes a girlfriend, who's modern, aware and stylish, and who's probably gonna marry a decent girl some day and get into a decent job.

Men like these-whom girls consider ok to talk to, and who're supposed to be the bright future of the society and the nation - I hate the animal within them.

Yes, I'm talking of the average college-goer, "normal" guy, who everyone of us knows, and I'm talking of the disgusting lecher within, who drools at every female colleague, who "sizes up" every girl they see, and everything else which is too stupid to mention. Yes, they're very normal and friendly outwardly, some even claim to be sensitive and respecting, but I'm too shocked, scared and disappointed by their dangerous minds. Of course, being in an engineering college with a horrible sex ratio, I get to see several such examples everyday.

Men? Morals? Huh! There's NOTHING in common between the two words, except that first letter.Maybe I'm being a little hyper and cynical, I know I can't really generalize everything, but forgive me for being so angry. I'm a victim of MA(I)L(E) MENTALITY writhing in pain.

After receiving several mails from several dogs who proclaimed me a bitch for their own reasons, I got this shocking mail from an old friend (no actually, an acquaintance, I never knew him too much, he was just a class geek and my lab partner occasionally). Among other stuff, this is what he wrote...

"I've always loved you from the core of my heart, and I even imagined hugging and smooching you at times. If you as a friend could give me what I want, we could arrange a meeting at a hotel room or my friend's house which is vacant. If you want I can even give you some money for the same. I think u know what I mean..."

My reply? F**k off!!

Ever seen a more shocking abuse to the words "love" and "friend".And seriously, this guy is some bookworm, with a decent reputation in general, just a little irritating and selfish, but nothing so cheap.Now do u get my point?
That is why I'm too disgusted with men, and for all practical purposes, and for all men in general, for reasons other than this as well, as far as I'm concerned, anything beyond a decent healthy friendship meets a single board "ACCESS DENIED!!"

P.S. PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS GUY IS NOT CURRENTLY IN MY COLLEGE...AND ANYWAY I'M NOT GOING TO DISCLOSE HIS IDENTITY. SO PLEASE DON'T MAKE A HUE AND CRY ABOUT IT ANY MORE( FOR ALL THOSE WHO HAVE COMMENTED SUCH...)