Once upon a time there was a girl, and there was a guy, and no this is not a love story. They never met, and there are no love stories to talk of. Infact there is no love, and no story to talk of here. It's just a tiny bit of reality. It's about two people I know, rather knew, for I can't boast of still "knowing" them any more. They have drifted too far apart, mentally that is, to be fathomable any more to me. And that makes me sad. I don't intend to be boring, and I don't intend to tell a long tale about two people who don't know each other, and who are hardly known to most of u likely to be reading this. But the only reason I mentioned them is this...pretence. We all probably wannabe somebody other than who we are, and trust me this is sad. But it's also equally human. Dissatisfaction is the name of the game for most of us. It's one thing to try and learn things we admire from others around and quite another to self-ridicule onself, and sometimes ridicule even others on the basis of skewed perceptions of "qualities" that one possesses, or doesnt possess, for that matter.Am I sounding in one of my preach-modes again? Maybe yes, and I'm sorry, but the only one I wanna preach to at the moment is myself. I'm appalled by the number of people around me dissatisfied with what they are, that is why they look upon others, then they get insecure, then they either want to be like that, or convince themselves that the other person, or that particular attribute of his personality is SO BAD so that they can get back to being comfortable with thier oh-so-small selves, and then all they end up is with more dissatisfaction, because in the whole process they forgot whatever 'good' qualities they themselves have, eventually losing them, and they forget the basic funda of 'life is a learning process, a journey, not a destination' so soon. Queer observation? Well that's not the only thing that's wierd with me.I'm sad today, because the guy in question was once a very good friend of mine, but slowly, bit by bit, he became so different from what i knew him as, that today, the image I have of him in my mind, the first 'him' that I got to know, has become so different form what he is today that it hurts me a lot. Why did this happen, I dont know for sure. Maybe he was trying to fit in with his peers, the rowdies around,and in the process lost what made him so different, and so much better than everyone else. He's become someone else now, and I can't even identify my friend. But I'm hurt. The gal I talked about was also a victim to the tide of change also known as peer-pressure and changing-with-the-times. She tried becoming oh-so-cool, but sacrificed her own ideology for that, the basic principles she said her life stood on. Is that fair? I don';t know. It's her life, she's absolutely free to decide. I can't say anything. I won't. I'll just sob in silence staring at the dark oblivion that's swallowed two bits of my life.
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I didnt intend to be so serious this morning. But sometimes early mornings on weekends, when the world sleeps, and insomniacs like me think, it happens. Still, I don't intend to invite "Oh-my-God-Phoenix You're thinking!!!" reactions now, so lets move to the brighter parts of life now.
RENDEZVOUS is the first word that comes to my mind when I think bright. The second word is messy. Even though on the whole things are moving somewhere, at times everything appears so chaotic, everything so much behind schedule, and the workload so ill-distributed, it's disturbing. I know most of these glitches would be over and smoothened and the fest wd be able to rock, but inefficiency in general always irks me. Gosh! I AM the most dissatisfied person on earth.
Hell, I was supposed to talk of good things right. The five funniest things that come to my mind at the moment are:
1. Shahrukh goody-goody Khan in the LUX ad...Gosh..he's hideous. The pet cry baby of Bollywood is now in the bath tub. (If r an SRK fan, sorry, but I can't stand most of his 40yr-old-loverboy-in a see-through shirt-love-my smile-sequences in movies)
2. The look on Ponting's face when England won the Ashes, and whatever crap has been written/said/happening as an aftermath. Seriously their politcian's can be just like our own Laloo!
3. The hysteria that this JEE pattern change has generated. OK know it's not funny, it's about the career of so many, and I have genuine opinions of my own on this(have actally had heated debates ont his), but the daily sloganeering by FIITJEEians, the mass invasion of insti by the press, footage and interviews of students and profs and absolutely anybody on all channels(which includs me too, for two days I've been shown on Aajtak, Zee etc, plus arbit 'opinion-interviews' at God knows how many channels :D) is kinda amusing.
4. A poem that I wrote, but it's so funny, and so sarcastically funny, and so mindless, but might offend some people, so am not posting it.
5. I realise I can't think of anything funny or good at all. Please read colourful Keeda's and Shalabh's blog(secy sir), links in the side bar, for some genuine fun, and a good read.
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“Every dark cloud has a silver lining, but lightning kills hundreds of people each year who are trying to find it.”
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I didnt intend to be so serious this morning. But sometimes early mornings on weekends, when the world sleeps, and insomniacs like me think, it happens. Still, I don't intend to invite "Oh-my-God-Phoenix You're thinking!!!" reactions now, so lets move to the brighter parts of life now.
RENDEZVOUS is the first word that comes to my mind when I think bright. The second word is messy. Even though on the whole things are moving somewhere, at times everything appears so chaotic, everything so much behind schedule, and the workload so ill-distributed, it's disturbing. I know most of these glitches would be over and smoothened and the fest wd be able to rock, but inefficiency in general always irks me. Gosh! I AM the most dissatisfied person on earth.
Hell, I was supposed to talk of good things right. The five funniest things that come to my mind at the moment are:
1. Shahrukh goody-goody Khan in the LUX ad...Gosh..he's hideous. The pet cry baby of Bollywood is now in the bath tub. (If r an SRK fan, sorry, but I can't stand most of his 40yr-old-loverboy-in a see-through shirt-love-my smile-sequences in movies)
2. The look on Ponting's face when England won the Ashes, and whatever crap has been written/said/happening as an aftermath. Seriously their politcian's can be just like our own Laloo!
3. The hysteria that this JEE pattern change has generated. OK know it's not funny, it's about the career of so many, and I have genuine opinions of my own on this(have actally had heated debates ont his), but the daily sloganeering by FIITJEEians, the mass invasion of insti by the press, footage and interviews of students and profs and absolutely anybody on all channels(which includs me too, for two days I've been shown on Aajtak, Zee etc, plus arbit 'opinion-interviews' at God knows how many channels :D) is kinda amusing.
4. A poem that I wrote, but it's so funny, and so sarcastically funny, and so mindless, but might offend some people, so am not posting it.
5. I realise I can't think of anything funny or good at all. Please read colourful Keeda's and Shalabh's blog(secy sir), links in the side bar, for some genuine fun, and a good read.
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“Every dark cloud has a silver lining, but lightning kills hundreds of people each year who are trying to find it.”
25 comments:
"but it's also equally human. Dissatisfaction is the name of the game for most of us"
most = 99.99999% very accurately!
Though I know 1 out of the .00001%...
(certainly not me and certainly no joke)
(the rule of 26.239487 approx decimal digits is not obeyed here)
We all probably wannabe somebody other than who we are, and trust me this is sad
a great thought....can't agree with u more. I have always wondered why ppl think like that (though I don't disagree that sometimes I also think on such lines)
Why don;t we ralise that there may be some people, few, but stil exisiting, who may consider us as idols and would be trying to become like us. We all are 'cool' in our very own ways, and should always try and remain like that only. At the same time, we shd let others live the lives they want, without interrupting them till a certain level.
Now, to the not-so-serious part.
my views on the 5 blah blah things you posted.
1. OK! I'm a big SRK fan...but still that ad SUCKS!!! My hand automatically starts searching the remote control whenever that shitty thing makes an appearance on TV
2. Hey! I'm a big fan of Australia (the country as such) and so I hate anything bad that happens to it. Infact, I cheered for Aust. in WC 2003 finals too.
3. Jesus Christ! What makes you think about JEE so much. You're in IIT now. I'm happy that I too made a 2.3 sec appearance on one of the second-grade news channel
4. Post it. Your other poems too offend many ppl. Don't care a tad bit. Just post it.
5. Great publicity Work...BTW r u working for publicity for rendezvous as well.
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Gosh! I AM the most dissatisfied person on earth.
God save your future husband(s).
Anda:" Post it. Your other poems too offend many ppl. Don't care a tad bit. Just post it."
Abe kisi ko samajh aayegi to offend karegi na...
Andy:"God save your future husband(s)."
all my sympathies....
If you like rooms that echo, is it that you like hearing your own voice and sounds being enhanced and elaborated upon? Is it that you are curious to hear what you sound like to the rest of the world and to have your sentiments communicated. Do you seek or feel some sort of response in the sound that continues and repeats itself? Is there something profound to be recovered/retained/remembered collectively?
wont know much about all the other stuff, but must tell u, lux... well, loss of words
and ponting's face was a picture speaking a million words, and yes, it has been done!!!!
btw, u do knw a lot, dont u?, im sure u knw what i mean
wonder when anybody was mentally fathomable ... can you really understand people that well ??:O
u put me in a thinking mode..i agree with u..we all try to be what we are not.would be sounding hypocritic if i deny being one of them..tho i hate doing it,was never ever able to get an answer to why i do it...guess it is one of the zillion flaws in this bunch of dissatisfied and useless species called humans
and maybe that is what pushes us fwd..or is it backward ??
congrats for featuring on tv..neways d issue of iit is a big crap.i could never understand whatz the hype about such a useless institution and god only knows where the eductaion sys of this country heading to !!
~Phoenix
Arbit... or may be too spontaneous (surely one of the two)
and yeah u caring about others?? abt posting ur poem strange :). (plzz mind i m not insisting to post that poem.. )
going to read salabh's and keeda's blog
i read ur long (some) comments too
from insane's comment
congrats for featuring on tv
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~andy
God save your future husband(s) :D:))
1. well me too kinda SRK fan..but was totally shocked seein tht Lux ad..looks like female/male ratio must hv increased like hell..coz else y wud they show a guy bathing unlike the usual ash n all :))
2. as bout ponting's face...agar uske face par kuch bhi hota then ppl wud hv found out SOMETHING to comment upon...so thts kinda useless...
3. ya now tht iit thing sorted out i guess..badhai on being on TV !!
5. u doing a gud publicity job for rendezvous :)
bahut lamba bhaashan maar diya tumne...
@RcGM
OO la la..for once a serious comment
:D
@prad
"we"???? the u that u think is the we is a minority, trust me.
Endorsing is my own prerogative, aise hi...i endorse site i like
@andy
for ur serious part, i really really respect ur comments and points of view...it was just my thnking bug that got me writing this post.
1.i'm also glad YOU also hate SRK's ad!Being the fan u r of his, u were the one i least expected to hate it
:D
2. traitor!
4. who did i offend with mypoems? :O
5. yes i'm a PNP volunteer...and thanx for the rest. it was just impulsive, based on last=post-entertainment-quotient-perceptions.
AND ABOUT MY FUTURE HUSBAND(S), WEEL I'LL MAKE SURE ANYONE WHO PROPOSES MARRIAGE TO ME READS THIS PAGE FIRST...infact I'd make him meet you for sure, and that'll ensure I'll never have any husbands at all. and trust me i'll be glad with it.
I'm too much of a liability for any man to be punished with.
it was just my thnking bug that got me writing this post.
hey, nahi seriously. I thought the first part of the post was more like the 'real' you, yaar. THe second part, though cool and nice to read, actually ruined the seriousness and intensity of a great post. But still, you're cool anyways...
so, here r my comments to your comments to my comments:
1. Cool...I still emphasize that I'm just a fan of SRK and in no case a GAY to like such wierd stuff.
2. I Love AUSTRAAAALIA (everything...damn everything...Sydney, Melbourne, Cricket over there, Foster's, The Ayer's Rock, even the Coral Reef). Call me anything. I don't care.
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4. Many, many ppl...although woh alag baat ahi ki woh shayad samajh naa paye hoon (as mani puts it). I'll tell you in person. Aisi baatein blogs par nahi daalte.
5. whatever
infact I'd make him meet you for sure
he...that's cool. Yeh kaam toh kafi accha sa rahega.
I'm too much of a liability for any man to be punished with.
Crrrap (include that Saif Ali Khan's Salaam|Namaste accent)...aisa mat bola kar yaar!
dead bird: I'm too much of a liability for any man to be punished with.
andy:Crrrap (include that Saif Ali Khan's Salaam|Namaste accent)...aisa mat bola kar yaar!
me: ha yaar! aisa mat bola kar.. tere moo se zyada sach sunne ke aadat nahi ab humein.
@almost_useless
So even YOU think that i know a lot..wonder why everyone comes to that conclusion on me. I know i figured out a few things abt u, but thats incidental!just stumbled on it by chance!
@pommu
try it
@voice
Yes, arbit AND spontaneous
aisi hi hoon main!
the tv bit u'll knoe if u read the post carefully enough
@insane
hmmm so i made u think!
sorry if that process hurt, for thinking often does...
@kon ??
:)
@TGHH
sorry, but i said that, i didnt intend to preach, except to myself:(
@andy
let the real me be away, she's dangerous!
ok i wont say it.
sorry CK.
thinking...i left doing that since i joined college esp an insti such as this
Agreement is all you seem to be getting from me these days, but i cant help it if you unleash these bitter truths of our lives which i truly like to comment upon.
I feel most of us are trying to be different than our true being just to be popular in our peer group, but what we fail to realise that its our uniqueness is what that makes us a apecial part of our "friends" group.
People who do know all this still find themselves in the same hole as you rightly mentioned that the basic human nature to be competitive and envious, drives us towards what we are not.
But i dont feel the need for the jokes at the end of such a thoughtful post,(jokes are otherwise morethan welcome)
“Every dark cloud has a silver lining, but lightning kills hundreds of people each year who are trying to find it.”
but Taru people who are not on the hunt for it,seldom find it
So I'm spam now am I? Thanks for the vote of confidence. In case you wanted to know, it was an honest to god question to bloggers in general as to why they blog. If you haven't noticed, it is rare to actually get anybody to sincerely answer a question these days. Out of all the people I've asked, I guess very few could be bothered thinking about what I'm seeking an answer to. You're response, I must say, was very enlightening. It revealed a lot to me. (Yes, this is sarcasm!). I was trying to provoke and pose a challenge and for all the irrelevant discussion it got, I think I'll try some other way of triggering a response. I'm sorry, I like asking direct questions but nobody seems to respond directly.
Btw, I asked you a question because I read your blog and came to the conclusion that I like the way you think. On dissatisfaction, I think it is part of being human and hence being insatiable. Methinks that as humans we show that we hope by always striving for more. If you lose dissatisfaction, it is like growing old and getting used to what you have and ceasing to progress.
PS> your gang is rather prickly towards wayfarers who stumble across your blogs
Btw, I asked you a question because I read your blog and came to the conclusion that I like the way you think. On dissatisfaction, I think it is part of being human and hence being insatiable. Methinks that as humans we show that we hope by always striving for more. If you lose dissatisfaction, it is like growing old and getting used to what you have and ceasing to progress.
PS> your gang is rather prickly towards wayfarers who stumble across your blogs
@ekantha
Very sorry for the lukewarm response u have apparently got from us...I concede I was thoughtless and hurried in my response.sorry, but will think about ur questions and answer u
@ekantha
Apologies again for the rather 'prickly', as u call it, reception that u have got. It's just that there's so much spammin on blog comments these days, and yours was a rather vague unconnected comment posted on so many blogs, that...er..well....watever, I'm sorry.
About dissatisfaction, I like the way u think...as in u equate it with hope, and it is a fresh perspective. Though I do not agree, because I think calling the "kind"of dissatisfaction that I portrayed as "hope"is far too optimistic to be real. Dissatisfaction of another kind is indeed good, but I think we can discuss all that soem other time.
About ur questions, well, I did think of them, and I feel like writin a whole post on them..see u around!
Im an extremely dissatisfied person .... wwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh
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