For those of you who have been a witness to The Great North-Indian Wedding Drama, this wouldn't have anything really surprising. And like all those who have seen it all and done it all, I've myself seen a lot of such weddings. Been there done everything types, excluding my own wedding :P, but that will never happen.
Anyway, the point is, I've been to two such huge weddings in the last week, after a gap of years, and it was quite an experience, although the second one was almost completely washed out by rain. But seriously, it is something! Loads and loads of overweight aunties all around you in 5 kg multicoloured saris with 25 kgs of gold jewellery and 125 kgs of makeup. All with a huge smile on their face, lots of gossip in their designer bags, and lots of food in their hands. An equal, if not more number of middle-aged uncles willing to hug all of their tribe at first opportunity. To my bad luck, the younger crowd that I saw had barely any watch-able, or gaze-able faces, with hardly any decent guys and only very few smart girls. And a lot of oglers. Kids are the only ones really having fun, not worried about their lipsticks and ties. And in the midst of all these people, lots of ridiculous music, slimy food and lots and lots of money-wastage, as seen by the lights and flowers et al, if you happen to be someone like me who knows almost nobody in the hundreds,a nd yet moves from chair to pillar saying Namaste to every second aunty you spot your mom with, life is not really good!!
To top it all, generally a few snacks and the stomach fills so full with all the oil that u barely eat anything, except the icecream which I never miss, so there go the chances of ENJOYING the party! And then, before I forget, there's the trivial matter of the wedding ceremony itself, which ,most people do not even witness, because it's so fashionable to be late the groom would barely ever arrive bbefore midnight, and so it's left for the really patient ones or close family and friends to actually witness what they are there for, the wedding!
I seriously have begun to have a thing or two against these expensive time and money wasting rituals, where the entire purpose reduces to showing off the clothes, your money, and God knows what else. C'mon if you have to get married, do that properly and quietly(and quickly). And then throw a party for all the obscure relatives if you will, but later and more like a party. I've already been fighting my parents saying all this is sooooooo humbug, but they dont agree. Nevertheless, my point is such nautanki is good for an occassional watch, but any further proximity or frquency is a No-No! :P Otherwise, it's harmless...mostly...
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I so much agree...I think these faltoo ke rituals are jut for show....they are harmless if u are not too involved....but sometimes i feel they are like a vacuum cleaner....sucking all the energy out of you....because it takes so much energy just to plaster a frozen smile onto urr face and agree with those obnoxius relatives..
Absolutely!
The worst thing is just being there amidst all that gloss, knowing approximately 2% of the people present and just cursing ur stars for putting u there in that situation.
But then... if you can get two or three of ur ilk, pull the bride's and the groom's leg, eat ur tummy full of icecreams... and generally have a blast, then nothing like at all [:D]
I seriously have begun to have a thing or two against these expensive time and money wasting rituals, where the entire purpose reduces to showing off the clothes, your money, and God knows what else. C'mon if you have to get married, do that properly and quietly(and quickly).
Well said. The word 'marriage' for the Indian community (mostly) has become synonymous to 'status'...the more money you spend, the more well-to-do you are. What people forget in this pomp-n-show is that marriage is a divine ritual, and it must be done with sincerity...that is why probably christian marriages which ask for blessings and nothing more are much better (but not appreciated in the society). Anyhow, its not that I hate binging on those spring rolls and paneer pakodas and icecream! Its a good change from that routine dal-roti diet! And you get to watch some real 'sample' people, isnt it? At least it adds humor to your stressful life!
sometimes when u read something it feels u wanted to say exactly the same....this is what i felt after reading ur post....couldn't have expressed about my take on marriage better than this or may be i'm lazy to do that :-D
Been there done everything types, excluding my own wedding :P, but that will never happen. - Are you talking about the prospect of yourself getting married?If so, why is that?
And don't tell me the ACTUAL wedding starts past midnight!
I feel most anonymous in such functions, all are supposed to be relatives and friends, and I hardly know anyone.
Have you read "Hitchhiker's guide to Galaxy - Douglas Adams"
In the book "Mostly Harmless" is the entry for planet Earth....
Couldn't help but notice
Long time, no see Phoenix. :)
I used to have similar reservations against ostentatious weddings, and I retain a lot of them, but I've come to realize that a lot of people (people you might love, e.g. family) sometimes expect you to allow them the pleasure of announcing to the world in their grand style that their family is witnessing an addition to it.
Anyway, we'll see how yours turns out, but if it's a very private affair, I might not really be invited. :(
Ha ha ha :))
Virtually u includede us in this wedding with ur detailed and bestr description of every small things around happening in a marriage [:)))]
Anyways, ppl have so much moeny to waste.. so dont worry abt tht.. as long as money is flowing, this will continue !! [:)]
[chinky]
sure..especially as long as it is not a very close relative, who cn possibly enjoy this gloss...
[sunny]
you are assuming that one knows the bride/groom at all, and even 2% outside immediate family members is a lot.
[tapasya]
agree with you...thats why it is the great indian drama.
[sanjay]
:)
[himadri]
well, i can assume that some day, around ten yrs from now, people may expect me to get married.but thats very unlikely still, and in any case not like this.
and yes, it does start around 1,2 or smthng
[tha anon]
thats a place where a lot of us are THE anonymous
[zyborg]
obviously...infact this is an oblique reference to that anyway
[rf]
u r way more generous thn a lot of us, but ur point is valid.
as for my wedding, i promise if that happens, u will get a grand party for sure, wherever that may be
[siege]
;-)
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