Dil, dosti etc

Bole to, everyone talks about love-shove everywhere, and talks and thinks and rants and sings and cries and tries soooo much...and so it's these in every movie, every other teenage dream, every other old-age memory, every home, every other hostel room, every office, every other song.(fir bhi world mein love ki kami hai...boy, the world really has a capacity!) But it's such a liberally misused word, that nobody knows what it really means anymore, what it stands for etc. There exist self-styled rules, abundant funde and all-pervasive confusion. Yet, the warmth, the lure, the bliss lives on. And thankfully so.

And then there's friendship. One of the better things about this world, so pure that friendship even in a bad cause is above everything else. And even if Mani says friends are for free, they're really hard to find, and hurts awfully to lose them.

I have had my share of toote dil and bichhde dost, and now I think while both dil and dosti are awesome, they're like explosive chemicals that come with a "Handle with care" tag. Small mistakes ruin big things. Even more potent and explosive is the combo, dosti ke sath dil free free free types. The margin for error is really low out there and there's just too much heartburn if it doesn't magically fall in right.

Bhashan apart, the point that I wanted to make in the story in the last post was just that love and logic is a bad bad combo. And that would include friendship wala love. Too much mind in matters of heart serves to complicate, and often lose and kill love, like it happened in that story. The book Narcissus and Goldmund has this line, "All was mind to him, even love; he was unable to give in to an attraction without thinking about it first."
The person who taught me this line taught me the philosophy of letting go the shoulds and bounds, and ever since this one truth is crystal clear...there are some things in life what feels right, is right. (Actually, most things would be like that for me, but bottomline is that there are things where mind does not and should not work). Sure, you make mistakes sometime. Sure, there is some pain, and sure as hell, love makes a fool out of everyone.
But it's worth it.

Thinking of someone first thought in the morning and feeling bright, thinking of someone last wink in the night and feeling secure...it's worth it.
And the other fact is this, love does not come with preconditions. So what if you love her and she doesn't? So what if your relationship with him didn't work out? So what if that person you still desire every second left you eons ago for something/someone else they were happier with? If that diminishes your love, it never was love.

To all my friends, thanks for your friendship. For everything you gave me. Even though you may have long left my behind in the mazes of your life and memory, you'd always be dear.
Once a friend, always a friend.

And to end with a cliche this very mushy post (yuck!)...why mourn that it is over, let's celebrate it happened. For all the love that ever came my way, yeyyy!


P.S. Oh and while on love shove etc, somebody tell me how can someone be as cute as this guy? I mean I would have adored him alright for playing so well, in fact have liked him ever since he's been playing for Australia, and would have still marveled in admiration at his IPL show no matter who he was, but I swear he's so cute and the way he talks is so endearing! :P
Just look at those eyes, I mean, he has to be the first cricketer I ever like apart from the game...Love you Shane!

P.P.S. Disclaimer: I don't eye taken men, so no, I'm not running from home to go and marry him.

P.P.P.S. Please pray for this friend of mine so she gets married to her guy. She's promised me a treat in Taj for that! :P :D Howzzat for dil se dosti ;)

P.P.P.P.S. And if blogosphere is where your heart beats hard, or you just wanna make a dedication to someone special, this post is definitely definitely worth a look!