We all hate being taken for granted, yet the people we love the most, especially our family, are the ones we take for granted all the time. People can't live with each other, or without. I mean, more than six billion on the planet, yet the amount of loneliness on earth is astounding. Isn't that ironical? We spend years waiting for a few moments. It's driving me crazy.
You never realize how much you love someone till you seem to be losing them, or till you see them hurt, a hurt you could have probably prevented by being there for them, and then you can't stop crying. Why can't people just always be there for those they care for? What is the point of loving if you couldn't show up when it mattered, if you couldn't give love when it could heal? Everyone should have people who could be their strength, and who would trust them unfailingly come what may. Otherwise it gets so so alone, especially because so often there are such people in our life and yet we don't have faith, or don't believe they really care, because they aren't there for us when we need them. Nobody should feel so helpless.
And nobody should have to stop talking when they realise no one's listening. Because it makes people do crazy things. Negative energy is as powerful as positive energy. And when you realize you're losing someone because you didn't support them and weren't there for them when you needed to, there's no feeling worse than that helplessness, that guilt.
Dialogue from yesterday's play:
One of these days, I'd be gone. You'd be gone too J, sometime, but in the interim, don't spend time wondering how it would have been had you given me some more time when I needed it, because in that moment of pain, I won't be able to be there for you.
Sometimes, you're both the criminal and the victim.
You never realize how much you love someone till you seem to be losing them, or till you see them hurt, a hurt you could have probably prevented by being there for them, and then you can't stop crying. Why can't people just always be there for those they care for? What is the point of loving if you couldn't show up when it mattered, if you couldn't give love when it could heal? Everyone should have people who could be their strength, and who would trust them unfailingly come what may. Otherwise it gets so so alone, especially because so often there are such people in our life and yet we don't have faith, or don't believe they really care, because they aren't there for us when we need them. Nobody should feel so helpless.
And nobody should have to stop talking when they realise no one's listening. Because it makes people do crazy things. Negative energy is as powerful as positive energy. And when you realize you're losing someone because you didn't support them and weren't there for them when you needed to, there's no feeling worse than that helplessness, that guilt.
Dialogue from yesterday's play:
One of these days, I'd be gone. You'd be gone too J, sometime, but in the interim, don't spend time wondering how it would have been had you given me some more time when I needed it, because in that moment of pain, I won't be able to be there for you.
Sometimes, you're both the criminal and the victim.
18 comments:
All the while we all push for our self intrests.
The quoted lines from play are impactfull & worth reading atleast 10 times. I dont want to be in such a situation but will use these words if needed :)
Good lines!
Yes you are right we take the people closest to us for granted. But I guess that happens with everybody. Probably we assume that when our near and dear ones would need our help / would be in a problem they will ask us, because they are so close to us.
But this doesn't happen always.
Shantanu
That dialogue is suffocating..
have gone thru this feeling in the past one yr when my close friends turned my back on me ... but this negative energy has made me stronger:).. i have stopped taking ppl for granted....
i'll be completing ur tag soon
Sorry.
Yep, the biggest agony on earth is the lack of real love. But hey, on the brighter side, anyone who read what you wrote today should have opened some part of their heart further. :)
Not old enough to comment on this type of things ..but i can see your transition to the dark side of the force ..you seem to be looking for agonizing and painful realizations in every reality of life ... try to realize the brighter side , that at least there is some event which led you to realize how much you care for someone , how much someone means to you ..and if you ask why it has to do through an event that is in a way heartbreaking ..then my answer is " Who is John Galt ?"...
Sad but true!!
We take the people we love for granted. But, its also got to do with the comfort level you share with those people. No matter what happens, you know they'll understand(atleast, you expect them to) and thats where it all begins...its a vicious circle.
It happens when expectations come in a relationship.
That dialogue is beautifully written. :)
Strange! I opened blogspot to post something similar!Covers everything I have been thinking but expresses it all much more powerfully...
What's the use of being busy if you can't spend time with people who are most important?
For this one I just one say one thing..... You really belong to voice inside me!
We take people closest to us for granted because we believe it is easy for us to mend when things go bad. And being there when I need the most is my one unconditional requirement in a partner romantic or otherwise.
[passionate]
Sad part is we don't even know most often where our self interest lie. All we know is momentary convenience.
Impactful words, yeah. Scary too.
[shantanu]
It doesn't.As they say, things too near to us stop being clearly visible to us. So we don't see, they expect us to know and understand, and we end up failing them. And getting hurt. It should not be this way, hai na!
[vik]
Then breathe, because one needs to live on to make it not happen.
[daman kohli]
Haan, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...but extreme hai na...if you just keep on getting hurt n hence stronger again and again, you'll end up being a rock...but stones dont breathe....:)
[doc]
Oho, shut up!
[akshay]
YEsss...I hope so too :D :D
How you doing these days?
[sandeepkumar]
First of all, there is nothing like the right 'age', or being old enough. Secondly, Thanks but don't worry that much for me :) I may flirt around the transition, live on the edge, but I'm too bitter for even the dark side to be able to swallow up entirely ;) ;)
Jokes apart, don't under estimate bitter stuff...it often makes u thankful for the sweetness on your life. The more u realise the absence of one thing, the more beautiful the presence of everything else becomes. Pain is good, it makes pleasure pleasurable. Stopping for a minute and thinking makes u correct the mistakes before they become permanent. Just need to be not obsessive abt it.
[realistic me]
Funny indeed, for it is a vicious circle. The effortless understanding, constant support and limitless care that brings people closer is exactly in the pursuit of what elsewhere you end up going far, because it is what throws them apart as it stops being visible, sometimes just disappears.
[aditi]
Not surprised...too many of us feel the same way...too many of us still do it. There was never any real use of being busy you know, except being busy with the people and things you love most...but then thats not called being busy, is it?
[geetika]
And all I would say to that, is that living as an echo is a fragile life.
[never mind]
It's not surprising,strange or too much to ask yet it's not unconditional. One of those things much easier to promise than fulfil, to ask than get.
Thanks ..this post is one I will keep coming back to I guess .. Probably it takes a conscious effort to do things that should ideally be very natural
It's all in your head :)
[divesh]
The reason is that time decay...read this...o everything is also natural, n its so easy to overlook even important, natural things.
[vibhav]
Yep, dont blame me, the disclaimer was duly issued.
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