We choose our friends because they are extensions of our selves in many ways that count - how we look at the world, how we think about things, how we choose between options, etc. While we do not always agree with them, by the very act of being our friends they are the litmus test to our decisions, all the more so because they will be unbiased by the personal prejudices that bias us towards choosing what we choose.
Which is why when there is a chosen course of action that meets disapproval from that set of people whom we consider to be the "more neutral" reflections of our conscience, it likens itself to an itch we can't scratch, and it becomes all the more harder to do something we know our friends don't approve.
In fact, I imagine we don't seek the support of our friends (support in the sense of sharing effort or giving advice), because our ends are rarely beyond our means; it is their sanction that we seek, and when they are against (or worse, indifferent) to our decisions, it unnerves us because now the people who you thought would be in your corner are absent; and that, more than anything else, scares us - having to go the distance alone without anyone to say "I believe in you".
That said, I believe that if/when the time comes that we are compelled to act in ways not approved by our friends, one of two things will happen: Either we made the right decision in the first place, and our friends being who they are, will lend their support without misgivings and trust our judgment a little more; or we shall be proven wrong to have acted as we had, and our friends will forgive our transgresses and help us make amends where needed.
15 comments:
but we cannot :(
Hmmm may be u can see the thoughts which get dristacted by lights :)
Are you low? A big warm hug to you.
Deep! Is that a photograph you took? It is Good.
Awesome pic!
But prefer your chaar saw chalees watt smile anyday :)
Yup.
Lots of Vitamin A.. ? :p
thats a beautiful pic:) and a beautiful line...
You need to go to Amritsar....
kyuki waha pe hai ....
Punjab Power -- lighting up your
life ji !!
(Sorry for the PJ :D )
[voice]
Maybe that is the irony.
[smita]
True, darkness helps one focus better on the invisible.
[pisku]
Not exactly, just pensive.
thanks.
[srividya]
It is good, but I did not take it. :)
[munnu]
Hehe. Totally. :D :D
[vibhav]
good, no.
[veikiin]
Carrots ;) :D:D
[indyeah]
YEah, thanks. Not taken by me though.
[tapasya]
Lol!!
:D
Sure, whenever I need to see "rab", next :D
Very true...not just for ourselves but we also see loved ones better...but why is it so?:P
We choose our friends because they are extensions of our selves in many ways that count - how we look at the world, how we think about things, how we choose between options, etc. While we do not always agree with them, by the very act of being our friends they are the litmus test to our decisions, all the more so because they will be unbiased by the personal prejudices that bias us towards choosing what we choose.
Which is why when there is a chosen course of action that meets disapproval from that set of people whom we consider to be the "more neutral" reflections of our conscience, it likens itself to an itch we can't scratch, and it becomes all the more harder to do something we know our friends don't approve.
In fact, I imagine we don't seek the support of our friends (support in the sense of sharing effort or giving advice), because our ends are rarely beyond our means; it is their sanction that we seek, and when they are against (or worse, indifferent) to our decisions, it unnerves us because now the people who you thought would be in your corner are absent; and that, more than anything else, scares us - having to go the distance alone without anyone to say "I believe in you".
That said, I believe that if/when the time comes that we are compelled to act in ways not approved by our friends, one of two things will happen: Either we made the right decision in the first place, and our friends being who they are, will lend their support without misgivings and trust our judgment a little more; or we shall be proven wrong to have acted as we had, and our friends will forgive our transgresses and help us make amends where needed.
I could live with either outcome.
[aditi]
Probably the inherent interdependence of humans on each other. we're really not complete within ourselves.
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