The one super-simple thing about women than men don't understand, and continue to call them (girlfriends, moms, sisters )infinitely impossibly complicated (which may or may not be true) is this:
Guys, when you don't understand what she says what she says or doesn't, or what she does and why, when she looks at you with eyes of expectation of something you can't figure out what, or with a silence you can't interpret (or one those thousand situations), don't fret too much, just look at her and tell her you love her, and say it like you mean it. More importantly, say it like she feels you mean it. And for that to happen, better mean it. Don't ask me what would repeating something so 'obvious' help? Just do it and watch the change. She knows anyway that it's hard for you to really understand the issue, but to calm her down to that knowledge, she needs to be convinced of your trust/sincerity/commitment. Try it.
Girls, what say?
18 comments:
I hate to confess this but since you asked:
just the other day while watching the flick 'an officer and a gentleman'i was thinking on the same lines as your post and thought how softie v women r (me incdd) , a nice word from your guy, a understanding nod, a helpful hand and we are ready to crown them with the chivalry (et al) crown!
aren't we too generous !
and yet men don't understand that it is that simple
"She knows anyway that it's hard for you to really understand the issue."-
Hum agyani purushon ko shikshit karne ke mahaan karya ke dauraan humaari tang-khinchaai ka bhi achchha avsar milta hai aapko :)
does it calm you down :)
I wld rather the man said nothing - but say a " I love you" and say it way that I feel that he likes me - but when it comes to standing by that supposed love - steps back.
or then, maybe Im just rambling.
does it helps...well thats a hypothetical perception..
women are more complicated then this..
if u say it more they take it for granted..they DO..yeah they do have the tendency to hear the obvious but seriously it gets they more hooked to the guy if he doesn't do that..
I know it's a little late to ask this, but whoever started this idea that woman are more intelligent and sophisticated and difficult to understand for men? I mean, it's not even a matter of debate now, it's taken for granted and things proceed from there! When did it become such a universal truth? But thanks anyway.
ha ha !
it does work doesn't it..atleast most of the times..
an overdose however can be highly fatal ; )
yeah true!but then even a hug is welcome along with it!!but anything in excess and to the wrong people,can be dangerous!
Well, I do agree with most of it. The only thing that matters in the whole process is the guy who says it. Im sure there are people from whom we dont want to hear "I love you", especially when they mean it.
Nice post! You're actually turing into a Love Guru.
[oracle]
You're very right. This is exactly what i was wondering yesterday myself, that we women go soft over such little things, gestures and implications. However it is often true as well that we over-react to small situations and "supposed" problems. And that is when i wondered if guys knew this much and handled it well, nobody would ever complain of women being difficult and we all wd be so much happier.
[vik]
If I remember correctly, you have been among those who have previously asked for me to put up such direct tips etc, and ab gyaan mil raha hai to ro rahe ho. Besides, other than the taang khinchai, it really is true aint it...half the times men wont understand why is THIS so much a fuss.
[desperado]
Yup, mostly :)
[arpana]
Stop rambling baba...
I did have the line "And for that to happen, better mean it". Things changing later are out of control, but still if he really means it when he says it, her heart would believe it, and that itself smoothens a lot....if he doesnt truly mean it, no matter how much she wants to believe it, something in her wont be convinced. I depend on that ultimate safeguarding mechanism
[dream catcher]
hmmm...
You're of the playing hard to get approach...well ok, wat can i say...at ur own risk!
[vibhav]
I took care to put the "which may or may not be true" anyway, so dont think my judgement is given. On whether it's a universal truth or not, too, I wont say anything as I happen to know myself a few guys more complicated than most women and also surprisingly emot-intelligent [:P] So you carry on the debate by all means.
And for all those who understand women (and men) anyway, u can conveniently overlook the tip.
[pooja, metallica bhakt]
Yup...infact i shd have written it in the post itself...Warning: Beware of excessive, reckless use. It'd backfire. For if you're turning suddenly sweet and professing too much of ur love all the time, she'd be unnecessarily suspicious!
[tapasya]
I agree. But mostly, with guys u wish to avoid intimacy with, such situations as described in the post are rare. And one has to discount for change-of-hearts too.
Ha ha ha!
nopes... din't work.... tried it... more than once... :(
[Oracle]
Did you ever realise that it's much easier to please a guy than it is to please a gal... think for yourself...
oh n yeah missed out on meeting you...maybe on my next trip to your city :D
[venom]
:)
[rohit]
Well, in most cases it does work and you cant be unlucky to fidn the few exceptional ones always. Of course you need to do it right too. Humbly, and lovingly. Mean it and say it like you do, with unsaid words of support on ur face.
Should work.
[desperado]
Yup, but better later than never. Hope hope... :)
right on the mark! :)
Hmm...all complicated problems have a simple solution.
But then now you can't blame boys for saying the word so many times!
May I say, that is the MOST useful piece of girl advice that any guy can get.
Just be direct and straightforward and say whats on your heart. It is really that simple. e just keep on complicating our lives so much - trying to learn the 'tricks of the trade', moderating the 'speed' of the relationship and blah blah.
Very refreshing advice. Way to go!
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