"Things that appear to be complicated- and that, in fact, are complicated-are very simple where motives are concerned. It is just a matter of what we are looking for. Motive is the root of desire, so to speak. The important thing is to seek out the root. Dig beneath the complicated surface of reality. And keep on digging. Then dig even more until you come to the very tip of the root. If you will only do that, everything will eventually come clear. That is how the world works."
-The Wind-up bird Chronicle, Haruki Murakami.
Once again, it is indeed simple to be happy. And tough to be simple.
I know one trick to do that though. Works sometimes.
Just look at yourself, observe, think, analyse, understand, as you would do for another person, or for yourself in your memories, only this time do it in the present. Look at yourself right NOW, from a distance.
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Hmmmmmm good point !
shantanu
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@ Phoenix: Ummm... okhay how do I look at myself from a distance? How far should that be? 5 metres? 10 km? from beyond the stratosphere? or from beyond life's little imagination? :) lolz Just kidding :) Great post. Short and sweet.
Have you tried astral travel, it is something akin to that but not exactly.
[shantanu]
:)
[illusionaire]
Whatever is separated enough, :)
[oracle]
No, things like those always even sound intimidationg
Easier said than done,subconsciously,in the heart of hearts,you know you are looking at yourself,at your life,and your mind and emotions get tuned to that......I would say it is better not to look at oneself(if that's possible at all)
is it easy to stay objective while doing the exercise when doing it for yourself, i think not; especially when the mind behind is too complex :) and when it comes to deciding what you ought to do to qualify as simple its your mind all over again that sets the standards..........in all, this may deceptively assuage your longings to stay simple but if you dont know for certain that you can be objective doing this for yourself, the futility is glaringly apparant (to me)
ps- hope i am forgiven, atleast for the time being.
[ab, catalyst]
I never said it's easy, I never said its fullproof either. Just that sometimes, occassionally, it works well for me, though its not working at the moment. But i know from personal and others' experience, that If you can do this, not that everybody can, you give urself the ultimate survivors' instinct.
[catalyst]
Somethings are less futile eventually than they seem. And somethings are more futile than we know. Like apologies and forgiveness. :)
i wasnt trying to point out how difficult doing it might be, rather that your mind can create an illusion and give you a temporary sense of having done what you set out to, being simple, that is..... :D not making sense, than leave it.
sometimes i wish i had more brains to read between lines :)
when you do something (big or small) against your nature it takes time to come to terms with it, i wish you were not so insentient and coldhearted, and understood ;)
Hmm that's a pretty difficult thing to do, even if you are looking into a U-shaped periscope whose other end is pointing directly towards you.
When we look at other people (or vice-versa) we are only looking through our own perceptions. Just like you can't capture an orange on paper more than it looking circular, the same way, the real you is always someone who you know perfectly. I can never look at myself from somebody else's PoV. Though I still will try that tonight ;)
//Look at yourself right NOW, from a distance.
I look at a single woman, with worry lines creasing her face - making her appear far older than what she is, sitting and typing out stuff on her computer in the noon without food.
Im not happy with what I see. On the contrary depressed.
If you meant -"count your blessings" or something of that sort in the spirit of your words ;
I see a woman sitting there; earning a 5 figure salary, but with no time to spend it, working all the day but hating every single second of it, going back to a plush house, but is totally homeless, doesnt have a care in the world, but then, doesnt have anyone to care for or care to; I see her awake on that expensive bed, afraid to dream - for many have been shattered.
I dont think that makes me happy as well.
Now, youve depressed me all the more. Do something and make me happy.
what u r proposing and first all quoted seems to b felony of author isn't it..
Things that appear to be complicated- and that, in fact, are complicated-are very simple where motives are concerned
sometimes its not so..they are far more complicate repercussions..i can ell infact i guess u urself can describes hundreds of such incidents..
dig dig ..n dig..though u might be spreading the earth around in the end u land up in deep hole..dont u think by digging we are more of closing ourself deep..
the bewilderment never subsides beta...
awesome thought ...
>>>>>it is indeed simple to be happy. And tough to be simple.
i think sometime its ur necessity also to be happy....!!!
tht above line really true..its tough to be simple n happy .
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hey taru >:D<
's up dear...long time no news from ur side..!!!
[catalyst]
then, maybe, you can argue that everything we perceive as reality or states of being including happiness and simplicity, are mere perceptions illusions and understandings of our mind, which make us feel react and act the way we do.
Often, in fact, following ur mind's path thru makes us realise what we thought we were looking for is not what we want or what we reallly look for, if u know what i mean.
considering the risk involved in "everything" we do by these stds, I still belive this is worth a try.
"when you do something (big or small) against your nature it takes time to come to terms with it, i wish you were not so insentient and coldhearted, and understood ;)"
Talking about me? Really?
[akshay]
The real you, my dear, is in all probability someone even you dont know properly, and maybe, reality itself is at some level perpetually elusive. The other thing is being able to hink from another's PoV may not give u the whole picture, but the other part of the picture, thats out of ur frame. Thats the aim.
[arpz]
I said, from a distance. not from inside your head.
You look at what you perhaps want to see, instead of seeing a girl full of life, living out joys and sorrows both, who's sadly getting used to the dark soothing beauty of pain, and to self-pity.
I look at a girl who needs really little to be happy, to be simple, but simplicity is not attractive to her. Yet, every now and then, she, consciously or subconsciously, manages to forget about being miserable and just live, laugh and smile from one moment to another.
If you look properly you'd see a girl bent on wasting the best yrs of her life thinking deep dark thoughts and penning them down because she knows pain comes better in writing than humour, because she somehow thinks "thinking" is a higher level of living...a girl who is loved a LOT by friends, family, even strangers...yet stubbornly refuses to acknowledge the white for the sake of the black.
I dont care if it makes u happy or not. Hopefully, it makes u more complete.
I'm sorry.
[dreamcatcher]
IF thats what u really want to and do believe, I dont want to say anything in reply.
:)
[ken]
:)
[megs]
Yup real long time. I'm good, howve u been sweety?
And about it being necessary, i even wrote somewhere that when u have a right on something, inc on being happy, it is at some levels ur duty to exercise that right.
It's ur duty to be happy, and as i've recently learnt, perhaps, a crime to be unhappy. Especially if others know u r unhappy
yeah, thats indeed what i might argue :)
the power of subconscious is mighty, in some cases in doesnt resonates well with our thinking processes because the wisdom accumulated has subtly modified our perceptions. so may be sometimes half way through you start having butterflies :)
there shouldnt be any need to impose this satisfaction, phoney or not it is definitely transient.....might work for some but i am more for something real and long lasting........i may not be able to discern it for i lack the brains to, but who really cares :)
see, the beauty of life is, you can be dead right but i may not be wrong either; i can live with that.
oh sorry, that wasnt for you, REALLY , forgive my momentary lapse of judgement induced by hunger :)
interesting .... I do it sometimes...but i dont think it works!!
[catalyst]
Lets just say it's a good debate with no conclusions as usual because there are no rights wrongs or judges.
You live the way u want to, and same goes for me.
[jeya anand]
Well...
'as usual' ..... i wonder what that might mean :)
why would you elaborate and paraphrase what i already said? it hurts when you dont even try to disguise your hints at my dumbness ;)
ps- coudnt resist putting this thought, 'some want stars to come their way while some want to make a journey to the stars, very few understand the difference between the two' :) thanks 'as usual' for tolerating my opiniated rant :D
It's addictive. Provides momentary relief if something is wrong. Sympathy takes the place of fear. But all those troubles which are real remain. Guess it's more a way of knowing which troubles are real, rather than of solving them.
[catalyst]
I think i've stopped understanding and expecting your sensibilities, reactions and intent, though you are not the only one; maybe I should just shut up instead of replying.
PS Good thought...but at least i am all for the journey too.
[vibhav]
Whatever works for you. But even this much, I guess, isn't bad, for one, if it's addictive, it's soothing and harmlessly addictive, and two, knowing what the question really is , is half the part of the journey for its answer.
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