Saturday, December 12, 2009

The art of not caring

There's one thing I have to give to Mumbai: it's one city where by and large people will leave you alone as long as you don't fall in their way. The apathy or indifference or whatever you may choose to call it, is fairly high, and there are both good and bad sides to it.

On one hand, there would be people like my deranged lunatic landlady who only care about getting more and more money out of you and be completely unsympathetic to your point of view. People will largely refuse to help you out of any humane instincts, only if it profits them somehow. The fanatics will get away with whatever speeches they want to make and the govt will get away with not doing anything because nobody will care enough to question, and those who comprehend will not care enough to vote.

But on the good side, it means by and large you can be yourself and random people would not stare at you. Neighbors will not get nosy even if you consistently come past 2 am at home. If you manage to stay away from the moral police types, you can conveniently walk hand in hand with a guy, wear skimpy clothers, get sloshed etc. And you can sit at Marine Drive alone at midnight, stare at the dark sea and cry all you want for an hour and nobody would bother.

I feel slightly lost in the hurried sea of people running about me. Part of it could be being forced to grow up so soon, and being so alone in all of it. Dunno. Nobody cares for anyone, and that's why they just add "take care" and absolve themselves of any responsibility and concern. Nobody expects you to care, either. Is this what it's like to be an "adult"?

If you care, you just get disappointed all the time. If you don't care nothing matters so you are never upset
- Calvin

Maybe I'm over-reacting. It should get better, right?
Life is not easy, but it's still good.

9 comments:

Quintoo said...

Its still good :)

PS: The post summarizes an identical observation that I've made about the whole of the US...

anand said...

"...you can sit at Marine Drive alone at midnight, stare at the dark sea and cry all you want for an hour and nobody would bother."

I can relate to that.

I especially miss that carelessness after moving to delhi.

Metallica bhakt! said...

some of us do care about you dude!! only problem is the time is too less but still the concern does exist!

Voice said...

I agree..

Pradyot said...

Yes, being adult kind of means all of those things and lot more. But have heart. Somehow, things work out.

Novocaine said...

I guess when you care for others, in a way you care for self :)

Diptanshu said...

Not caring is good. Just make sure that you stay on the 'carefree' side of Carefree-Careless line.
As 13 words of advice, remember all the reasons you wanted to grow up when you were small..er. Being an adult would feel a lot better.

Canary said...

Part of growing up, I guess :)
Happy New YEar :)

Anonymous said...

age and careless-ness are related in an exponential fashion, i guess ... its amazing , the speed age brings distances in relation